commentr/StutterNovember 5, 2018

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Online dating has definatly saved my ass. Sure, it's superficial and all that crap, but it beats trying to approach a woman in a bar or a nightclub. How big is your stutter? I'm somewhat of a functional stutterer which means a lot of people don't pick up on my blocks. But I still made sure to tell the first woman I ever went out on an online date with. No need to make a big deal about it, just lay it out there and don't mention it again unless she specifically asks you about it. She will remember it even though you only mention it once beforehand. As for the actual date, try to pick a surrounding that you're comfortable in. I stutter worse in loud enviroments where I have to talk real loud so I usually go someplace quiet or a bar where the music is not so loud. If you feel a little worried about being able to keep up a conversation for long, pick an activity. Go bowling or whatever. People like talking about themselves. So get good at asking questions! The hard part is getting out there. Once you get a few dates under your belt things will be a lot easier. I ended up in a two-year long relationship with the girl i mentioned earlier. I have since then been on a couple more online dates and I don't even mentioned my stutter anymore. Because guess what? My experience is women don't really care. We all got our hang ups. So just get yourself out there and start dating. You'll be fine!

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Social & RelationshipsAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work

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Dating & RomanceAvoidance & SubstitutionAnxiety & Social JudgmentEmployment & Career