**"how to find confidence and push yourself"** You could try this out to gain confidence: * Firstly, before you start speaking, make sure that you set this new mindset:you are not anticipating a stutter or justifying/choosing compulsion. Also, don't be bothered by stuttering. * Secondly, start to speak. Only if you stutter, check to see if you were 'anticipating' a stutter or justifying or choosing compulsion. Then acknowledge that you did this without reacting. * Thirdly, if are still reacting by fight or flight response or rumination, then tell yourself: '**I will speak without compulsion**' or **'All letters are safe'.** What is the goal of this? The goal is **not** to change the hardwired trigger. The goal is to stop anticipating, justifying and choosing compulsion, without stuttering bothering you. The goal is to reduce confidence/discipline for choosing compulsion. The goal is to gain confidence in your body by putting faith in your body to gain back trust. * Fourthly, if you are still reacting by changing or hiding trigger, then observe the trigger to become resilient against it * Fifthly, if you are still reacting by deliberately controlling speech muscles, then stop controlling them and let your body automatically naturally speak without compulsion \[let go of control\] * Sixthly, if you are still reacting by focusing on stutter feeling to anticipate a stutter, then tell yourself that no one can anticipate a stutter so don't link a stutter feeling to choosing compulsion \[stop comparing or labeling\] * Seventhly, if you are still reacting by asking yourself 'wil I stutter', then you are deliberately predicting a stutter which will convince you to choose compulsion. Stop yourself if you notice that you are doing this. Conclusion: People who stutter can't eliminate triggers. However, changing our response/perspective of trigger is effective to stop anticipating, justifying and choosing compulsion.