Exactly and they often say that without acknowleding the struggle we go through. If it wasn't true we would a lot of us wouldnmt end up so isolated depsite trying harder than others around us. It's always been so difficult making meaningful connections and when I do it feels like I am not respected. What we say doesn't matter, it is how we say it. We are adapted to analyze everything when speaking to another person. What causes connection is the ability to mimic someones speaking rhythm. It builds a sense of comfort, the majority of the time except those rare occasions where I dont stutter I can always see they are uncomfortable. I don't blame them or even know if they can help it since language is integral to us. https://youtube.com/shorts/21AJMTJzdyA?si=rZmQgELR_80J_8oF People who tell us it is in our heads also acknowledge and watch content like this. It's basically saying its our fault and get over yourself. It comes from a place of disrespect when they say it proving our point further. It is still possible to be happy and enjoy life with a stutter but you need to compensate. The only time I was able to be super social and where people seemingly instantly respected me was when I worked out in college for 4 years nonstop. I got pretty strong and visibly muscular. 2 years into it I noticed people treat me drastically different. Working out in general is healthy and can fight off depression once you have been doing it for a while. It was the first time I ever experianced anything like that. People came to me to become my friend or earn my respect. I went back to being skinny again, I really want to return to that point. The best advice is you need to find a way to compensate in the meantime in regards to stuttering. I am sure its not the same for everyone, very tall men that stutter I imagine already are compensating and get respect. The confidence and socialization will come with that.