>Not to mention how powerless you feel when trying to deal with assholes. Waiter give you terrible service? Good luck explaining why you're mad. Some jerk on the subway says something racist to you? Good luck defending yourself. Your gf gets catcalled? G-g-g-good luck standing up for her. With racists and catcallers I think it's the best strategy to stay calm and not defend yourself(even without stuttering), to not escalate the conflict further. You don't have to proof yourself(even to your gf), you won't change their mind anyway. If they are aggressive and want to beat you, they'll do it anyway. Escaping conflict is valid strategy and sometimes the best one.