commentr/StutterJanuary 6, 2017

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Hi /u/Ftus. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm 26 and I stuttered from an early age, around 4, I guess. I still do. I hated to read aloud in front of my class and give a presentation to a large audience, and tried to avoid them as much as possible. I talked as less as possible, didn't ask questions in class. But fortunately I didn't shy away from answering questions, maybe because my friends and teachers were more supportive than yours seem to be. But you know what they are kids and they don't know what they are doing. Don't mind them. As they grow up they will hopefully realize that what they did was wrong. And you, my young friend, can help them to realize that. You know how? It's simple. By not stopping talking. I don't know if you have heard about Gandhi. He was arguably a great man. However a great man or not, some of the most uplifting quotes are attributed to him. One in particular is very apt here. *First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.* Your classmates are already at the laughing phase and they will probably not fight you. So if you persevere you're going to win them over. I'm sorry but I can't say the same thing about your mom. But hey, this is your life, not hers. Make the best of it. As you grow up you will realize that others don't care about our stutter as much as we do. I teach now and I regularly stutter in front of my students but it doesn't bother them as much as it bothers me. So don't worry about having to face ridicule after you pass out of high school. And you're young now, talk to your dad or teachers and go see a speech pathologist. It will be extremely helpful. It is quite possible that if you train with a speech pathologist now, you can effectively minimize your stuttering( I wish my dad, who also stuttered, took me to a speech pathologist when I was your age). But even if you can't, don't fret. Stutter or no stutter life isn't always easy. You seemingly have a disadvantage compared to your peers but you can turn it in to a strength. You have difficulty talking but that is not the only way we communicate. We communicate by writing, by body language. Work on those. Learn a new language. You can be a very good communicator despite your stuttering. In fact some of the greatest orators of history were stutterers. Stuttering is not the end of the world. Sure it makes life difficult but it's not everything. And please don't stop talking. You would doing yourself a great disservice otherwise. Hope that helped. Feel free to reach me if you think I might be of some help.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceSchool & Work

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Avoidance & SubstitutionSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesHope & MotivationSchool & Academic Life

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