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Hello. I'd love to chime in here if I could. I think controlling stuttering is definitely an option. However, I think a more liberating option is to focus on speaking smoothly, clearly, calmly and confidently. Feeling free to say what one wants, when one wants. This is a positive goal, rather than a negative goal, such as trying to avoid, stop or control something and much more achievable. Why is this relevant here? It's relevant because speaking spontaneously and smoothly are both learnable skills and habits. And, if this is the case, then we only need to learn and practice these skills and build the habits that represent this kind of speech. Some, if not many, if not most people who stutter tend to anticipate words, letters, and entire situations. This is to be expected since our previous experiences (memories) reinforce and in many ways predict our future experiences. This need not always be the case. We can start systematically creating new experiences (memories) that incrementally change how we speak going forward. Learning to speak without thinking or while thinking, and learning to maintain airflow while speaking are very doable goals. And, the freedom they represent is truly liberating. When I used to stutter, I felt exhausted every day, because my first full-time job was working on the telephone of all places. When I began to work on my speech I decided to only take jobs that required me to speak in public (teaching, training, etc.). The combination of this and several other things helped not only transform my speech, but also my speaking identity. Speaking Identity plays a vital role of how well we speak. Thanks for reading. ​