postr/StutterJune 23, 2019

Stuttering and conflict

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Stuttering and conflict For me, one of the most frustrating things about stuttering is dealing with conflict. I get into an argument with someone over something, and have a very hard time explaining my point of view. This pretty much always results in it looking like I'm wrong ALL THE TIME which is extremely frustrating. It fucking sucks to feel like its always you who's at fault. As you can imagine, this has done *wonders* for my self esteem. I try to keep calm and relax, which definitely helps me remain logical and be significantly more articulate. Unfortunately, this still has limited effectiveness. I'm almost 24 and I've never been in a real relationship, pretty much only short flings here and there. If I do ever get into one, and that's a *big* if, I'm concerned there will be a massive amount of resentment on my end after because I'll always be the one that has to concede, the one that is wrong in an argument. Not to mention how powerless you feel when trying to deal with assholes. Waiter give you terrible service? Good luck explaining why you're mad. Some jerk on the subway says something racist to you? Good luck defending yourself. Your gf gets catcalled? G-g-g-good luck standing up for her. I've have made big strides towards accepting my stutter. And I've realized that people really don't care too much if you don't make a big deal out of it. *You* have a lot of control over how *others* react to your stutter. But in a situation where the person you're speaking to has opposite interests to you? Good luck.

Themes

Causes & VariabilityAnticipation & AvoidanceEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Stress & Fight/FlightAvoidance & SubstitutionFrustration & AngerAnxiety & Social Judgment

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