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People always think I am mad at them?? Any context where I need to explain anything to anyone the other person takes on obvious feelings that I am yelling at them. I need to speak in short clear phrases to get the words out. This is actually the time I am most fluent and I am wondering if my fluency is confusing to the lsitener? like do they think this person isn't listening to me unless I do something wrong? just because they hear my stutter, do they think I don't hear them? I prefer people to call me when they are confused about any instruction I have given them by text or phone because once someone has already misunderstood me it's even worse. I just had to hang up on a loved one because they were telling me to stop yelling at them while they were in a store. Made a pick up grocery order was taking a while. asked what I ordered and I told her. she took that as a list and shopped and was really going to pass on the $9.85 in coupons I had put on the app order. I asked why, when I said I made the order and sent a screenshot, why did she go in? I'm not mad! I just need clarifications! I crave understanding what could have gone wrong. I am always trying to do something nice and then clarifications ruin everything. This is just how I talk!! I hung up because there was nothing I could say that would convince her I was explaining! and not mad!! just kept making her more skittish and say things like "stop yelling at me" and at that point making me feel like I am making a scene on the phone in the middle of a store!! it's not just with one person, I think a similar phenomenon led to me losing a job. it really just has to be the sound of my voice!! I truly only ever want a conversation where understandings are reached. I am not relaxed if people are confused by something I am capable of explaining to them. like how to use an app or any number of stupid things. best part is this is just how it's going to be, do not provide me with therapy methods or books, tell me if this happens to you and what strategies you actually used in your actual life to COMMUNICATE with people? This happens mostly when I am fluent! speech therapy did not work so this has to be something I did to my own brain and voice to cope. I have absolutely no desire to even speak to an SLP ever again lol (if it worked for you: good for you! this post is not something you have to interact with)