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Yea, this condition is kind of a spectrum, I really suggest looking into it. There is a guy on this sub (Cam’t remember his name) but he had posted a study showing that a large amount of people who stutter have this condition. I see, I understand your point on confidence. I’m gonna disagree with the fact that everybody confident in speaking in front of others practiced a lot. I think some people just naturally are calmer than others and/or hold themselves to a lower standard so are less anxious. I’ve seen people at parties or BBQ’s that really aren’t that attractive (Maybe they are overweight and don’t really even groom or dress up) but they can be the center of attention. They aren’t necessarily confident, they just don’t have any baggage or barriers in their mental to hold them back. Think of David Goggins, for example. He constantly has a story going on in his head that he needs to prove to himself that he isn’t a loser so he goes to immense lengths to prove that he is not. Meanwhile there is probably some guy at home eating Cheetos on the couch and feels content. So maybe the problems we have are internal and made up, so we create goals to feel that we have overcome those internal barriers. But in the end it’s just an illusion. For example, my mind might tell me I need to run 1 mile on the treadmill to not be a loser. While David Goggins may have a rule that he needs to run 45 miles up a mountain with broken legs to feel that he isn’t a loser. Well then it begs the question, whose rule is correct, mind or his?? I think it’s just mental and there is no rule, it’s subjective. This is why I’ve heard it’s better that stuttering “dissolves” rather than is overcome. The more we create conditions to be met to be fluent, the more our brain reinforces those conditions to have to be met again to stay fluent. It’s a hard thing to understand because to an extent we need to accomplish basic health and goals to stay healthy, but we also need to be mindful of creating our own mental limitations to fluency.