WMR97, this conversation is the relation between orgasms and stuttering, which is a very valid observation. However, some the stuff you say makes you seem like a pious, anti porn, bible thumper. There is zero correlation between orgasms and "low confidence", "self love", or "motivation", and it is pretty ridiculous to even try to make that relation. Telling someone not to have an orgasm because it'll make "love yourself more" is just...silly.