commentr/StutterApril 17, 2021

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You *can* improve your fluency. My recommendation is always (if you haven't already) find a good speech pathologist in your area. Someone trained in assisting stutterers. In my experience, there is a world of difference between a professional and what the public schools provided. They are in no way equivalent. I was a stutterer from the time I was a young child. It became more and more severe through grade school. Pretty much every sentence. All day, every day. The blocks grew from a 'simple' stutter to jaw-locked blocks that would last until I ran out of breath. At about age 13, I went to the optician's office to pick up my glasses. When I got to the counter I had a really bad block. I couldn't get my name out. The counter person handled it really poorly, which just aggravated my stutter. I couldn't get anything out. They literally kicked me out of the store. They thought I was chanting, or wrong in the head, or whatever. Words can't do justice to the feelings of hurt, shame, and anger I felt that day. Over 30 years later, and that memory still hurts. I doubt anyone outside of this forum can understand what that felt like. The key for me was putting in the work. It took me two attempts. When I received help in my teens, I didn't put in the work. As such, I didn't improve much. When I returned to speech therapy in my 20's, I made rapid improvement. The program was the same, the difference was me. I did my homework. I practiced every day. I like to use the analogy of going to the gym. If you only work out an hour a week, you won't see any gains. But if you work at it every day, you see results pretty quickly. I still have the occasional block, but I am fluent most days. Granted, I don't practice my speech lessons, and haven't for 15 or 20 years. For years, stuttering owned me. It weighed heavily on me, and impacted my social and emotional development. Today I don't even think about my stutter in everyday life. I've read hundreds of different stories in this forum. I appreciate that there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. I hope you find a solution that works for you.

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Therapy & ProfessionalCommunity & SupportAnticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

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Seeking TherapyPositive Therapy TechniquesPersonal StoriesHiding & ConcealmentQuality of Life

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