commentr/StutterNovember 22, 2023

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In school I felt the same. I was shy and I felt people were judging or bullying me. I realised after I left college that I was wrong. Kids were mean as shit in the early years of school and that led me to generally distrust my peers. As we all got older though, it stopped and it was my insecurities, shyness and paranoia that was holding me back. I realised this around 19 and set out to fix it. I took a course on desensitisation. I got comfortable telling people I had a stutter and found most people were to busy with their own lives to care at all. I started going on dates, I started trying to make friends. I still have a severe stutter. I stutter at work and at home. I stutter on the phone. Generally though, life is alright. I would encourage you to consider if your peers are actually judging you or if you are holding yourself back. The most important thing I learned was to tell people I stutter when I meet them. As soon as I hide it, I find talking a lot harder, I get self conscious and I worry. I don’t know if you have tried this but this really opened up every door for me. I hope you find happiness and manage to get yourself to a better spot soon.

Themes

Coping & AdvocacyIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Voluntary Stuttering & ExposureAuthenticity vs. MaskingDisclosure & Telling Others

Codes (2)

intimidation_authorityrepeating_oneself