I'm not religious but I like my version of the serenity prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I cannot accept, and the wisdom to know the difference. When I decided suicide was not a good option, I had to find something to live for. Cleansing my psyche was part of that. I spent a lot of time in introspection, learning to accept parts of myself I didn't like, including but not limited to my stutter. I also found that in resolving my deeper issues, my speech would improve. As I became more self-aware, I realised that my inner turmoil was often reflected in my speech, which gave me something to work with, and a goal to sort my head out as much as I could. Accepting that it happens means less worrying about it, caring less about what you think others think, knowing that communication comes in many forms, not just speech, and some people can talk incessantly and be terrible communicators. Everyone has their cross to bear. My stutter meant I could accept others with any ailment or disability before I really accepted mine. Everyone learns how to carry their cross, and ways to make it easier to bear.