commentr/StutterNovember 15, 2018

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I can get away with not telling people I have a stutter as its super mild most of the time. Most people who notice it and tell me, say its barely noticeable and they only know because of consistencies within it on bad days, like a repetitive eye blink before I say W words, or a consistent prolongation of L words. I really hate talking about it with people who don't stutter, even close friends or my husband, but we are working on that. He says things like "don't worry about it, you'll be fine" or "no-one even cares!" I feel like ripping his face off, like STFU, I care! Idk why but I can get super emotional and defensive often over nothing. In other words, I project **a lot**. I *hate* the fact that I still stutter, no matter how mildly. My life experiences have told me its a weakness, an embarrassment, a flaw and even a failure. So I project this onto sometimes very well meaning people and think that now "my secret is out" they view me differently. They probably do view me differently because I am generally so open about most things but this stutter is like my deepest darkest secret and I become a little beast when its exposed. Idk how to get past that. ​

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentIdentity & Self-Perception