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Advice Hi guys, Fellow stutter-er here, recent member of this sub. I have come to notice that many of the posts here are somewhat worrying - it seems for many individuals stuttering has become a major barrier to happiness and purpose in life. Leading to some dark or at least disillusioned feelings. I mightn't be of much help, but I think I may try offer some advice?: So, 1. Accepting your stutter but don't let it define you: this kind of a dichotomy here. But I think the balance and division is important for one's 'sense of being' or personality. Never introduce yourself to people as, or think to yourself in the way of: "Hi I'm John, the stutter-er", personally I think its degrading. I much rather the mentality of: "Hi I'm Paul, great soccer player, brother, friend, top student" (who as it happens has a speech impediment). 2. Embrace the humorous side, but never allow yourself be humiliated. I like to joke to myself ( literally myself with no one around) about the times when I really really embarrassingly stuttered in front my friends (imagine not being able to say your name in front of your college year lol!). Well, I face the event rather than ignore it. I understand why some might find it funny but if I engage in the joke - I make sure to ensure my side (the struggle) is also conveyed. This means, now that I'm not afraid of it, I can learn from it and hopefully beat it - obviously with the lock-down little opportunity to say my name in front of people but I am planning on it. 3. Fear: you grow when you do things that scare you. Simon Sinek has advice for public speaking - try to view nervousness as excitement; try to do this. But, at least for me, this only helps a small bit because I think we have a lot more psychological baggage when it comes to speaking that can only be tackled brick by brick - that's why I plan to start Toastmasters' (as should you). So that the next you step on stage "all" you have is that normal amount of nervousness/excitement or at least aim for that. Heck, we might surprise ourselves! ​ These are just some off the cuff thoughts I've add in response to reading some posts here. Hopefully be of help to you guys and please start adding your own or add to mine! ​ Just to let you know; through not letting my stutter hold me down, I've landed dream job in finance abroad, incredibly well paid and will hopefully be experiencing new city once Covid-19 is cleared. In fact, in interviews, speak about the mental fortitude you develop by having to cope with stuttering on a daily basis. One of my interviews who is very successful had a lisp, so I spoke to him briefly about my stutter. He works with clients all the time as an Investment Banker not for a second did he let his lisp hold him back, he couldn't, his drive and ambition was/is too strong - be like him. There's an entire world out there to explore and, you're an entire individual with many gifts, dreams, quirks and desires way way beyond stuttering - never give up on yourself, and you might just surprise yourself. \[Do it for you not others\] ​ Regards,