One thing that helps me when I feel like this is to look at what people are actually saying. In most cases I've found that people are partaking in small talk, or saying things in a verbose manner. I've learned that I don't particularly care for small talk and I tend to actually dislike/distrust people that are extremely good at small talk. It's also quite eye opening to realize how little actually needs to be said in conversation. Especially in-person conversation. Body language goes a long way.