postr/StutterJune 2, 2024

Going on a first date for the first time

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Going on a first date for the first time So I'm 28 years old. And I'm going on my first date ever this week. Yes, I know it's late in life and I know should've taken a step earlier at some point. But I think my speech impediment held me back so much with anxiety. I usually am cool with conversation with friends and make sure to initiate topics to discuss. But for some reason, I'm truly getting nervous about this date, that I can't stop thinking about it. We're going to get coffee. From the fact that I wanna pay for both for us, which is basic, but I have to say that before she takes out her card at that moment. And then starting topics to converse, since it isn't just about having a good conversation like with a friend, but also making sure this girl is attracted to the personality I'm showing. Then the added pressure to make sure she's interested in what I'm saying and isn't bored out. I can attend interviews with less pressure on me, cuz all they look for is objective answers so i can do my job. But this, this is different, it deals with a lot of other things to get romantically involved. Maybe I'm overthinking it. Fyi, I already told her I stutter.

Themes

Emotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Anxiety & Social JudgmentDating & RomanceOverthinking & Monitoring

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emotional_statetime_pressure