commentr/StutterFebruary 26, 2025

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Questions: Does stuttering bother you? Not anymore. I'm now in my mid 30s and it hasn't "bothered" me since my late teens Do you do any sort of therapy for your stuttering? Not since I was 14. I was in speech therapy pretty much from the time I was coherently talking until 14, and the last 4 years of it or so was no new information, just a rehashing of what everyone else had said to me, so I quit. Do people point your stutter out? Very rarely, 99.9% of the people I interact with don't care much and wait. There's the rare butthead that will say spit it out, but theres been less than 5 of them in the last 10 years Do you use any strategies to limit your stuttering? For me, diversionary sounds/words and pacing/breathing are my biggest helpers. Knowing my trigger sounds, in can slightly restructure some sentances to flow better so I don't cold start on a trigger sound. Pacing and timing my breathing also helps, so I'm not as strained when I hit those sounds. Do you have kids that stutter (if you have children)? I do have a son, but he's only 2.5 years old so it's a little early, but so far theres no signs of a stutter. Do you remember when you started stuttering? My mom tells me that it started when I speaking coherently, so maybe around 3.5 years old or so? If it has, how has your stuttering changed throughout your life? When I was younger I had a lot more repetition stutters and a few hesitation, as I've gone through my teenage years its become more gestation based with the rare repetition. Do you have any hobbies? Plenty! I'm actually a forever Dungeon Master for D&D and Pathfinder. I didn't start that until about 5 years ago (I was 29) and I was terrified my stutter would be a big setback. Turns out, its ok. There's some obvious issues here and there but all my players love each session and I get to play ALL the characters! Besides that I do leather work and I restore hickory golf clubs. Do you feel like when you have a sore throat, you stutter more? (he was just sick haha so this is clearly on his mind!) You know, I can't really say one day or the other. I don't really get sick often so I can't say i recall how it affects my stutter. Do you have a family member or friend that stutters? I do, my biological father has a stutter. And before I moved towns I was aquaintences with one of the only other stutterers there! (It was a smaller town of 8000 people on and island, you got to know everyone indirectly) And my question I'd like to add: What do you think would have helped you when you were 10, or what do you wish someone had told you? Kids are some of the cruelest creatures alive, they tend to attack anything that's different. As soon as you get to the end of high school, most people wont care about your stutter, especially out in the real world. Some things will always be tougher, and considerations will need to be taken in your future. But enjoy these years you're in now, because as hard they seem in the moment, it passes by too fast and you'll miss it.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionSeverity & FluctuationAnxiety & Social JudgmentIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride