commentr/StutterJune 26, 2019

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> The next time I did it to a young woman who I'd known for a short while and worked with. We were in a huddle and she was struggling badly -per usual. I just said "Oh Sarah, I noticed you have a stutter, I like it!" And then I smiled. I'm generally adorable but the girl looked positively mortified. She was very embarrassed and sort of ran away and it took a lot of apologies and small presents to make her come around to even speaking in front of me again- took weeks!. Her stutter was severe and debilitating. TBH I think every word was a an act of supreme courage and me calling it out like that just destroyed her confidence. ​ Well If I was to start conversation with severe stutterer I would probably ask him what can I do to make him more comfortable speaking. But I guess it might be tricky and one should really be sensitive about it. You saying to the girl that you liked her stutter sounds to me as saying to blind person something like: "Oh so you are blind. Very cool!" :D Anyway I feel like talking about stuttering more openly could make life for stutterers much more easier. Situations like when I am speaking to someone and suddenly hit a block in the middle of sentence and the person just assume I ended and stops listening or start talking to someone else are so annoying and with more knowledge of people could be avoided.

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Emotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Anxiety & Social JudgmentAcceptance & PrideListener Reactions