Most women are approached by men, approaching means engaging in speech, if you are being approached it means that the person already has an interest in you which means less need to perform. Therefore, women generally have it easier in finding partners, of course like most things in life it varies case by case. It's easy to dismiss claims we don't agree with by just shouting "Insecurity!", but let's look at some of the points you provided. 1. "Men are supposed to be strong leaders". Not necessarily expressed this way, but in society it is usually expected that the men have to be the breadwinners, and women are also more inclined to be with men with higher earnings as shown by a study performed by the **U.S. Census Bureau Data** in 2018 that found that in 76% of heterosexual married couples, the husband's earnings were higher than the wife's earnings. 2. General lack of compassion against women on the sub. I'm not so sure about this one, but if examples can be provided we could discuss this further.