commentr/StutterJanuary 5, 2023

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I successfully hid my stutter by giving up talking or flat out lying. (Ordering food I hated, using my middle name, pretending to forget etc) The laughs of others can be legitimate nervous laughter, confusion, concern. It’s actually quite common for people to laugh nervously. I’m fully aware of how terrible those laughs feel. In fact, that makes it even harder to objectively see what the other person is thinking/feeling. The faces that others make can be a subconscious way of trying to “assist” a person who’s struggling in an *unknown* way. Have you even seen someone struggling, maybe carrying a heavy package, but not super near you? It’s very common to subconsciously raise eyebrows, etc to “assist” If you explain that you have a speech disorder, and they laugh, they are a terrible person. I mention this for one reason - many blocks/avoidance behaviors are a result of feeling bullied. If you can see it’s happened med less than you think, it makes it much easier to do the work of decreasing blocks, avoidance bx

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Anticipation & AvoidanceSocial & Relationships

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentDisclosure & Telling Others