He is young. And at that age you’re just a bag of hormones. I can relate. You only realize that sex is a by product of a good relationship and a relationship should not be as you say a means to the end. But as a 34 year old married man my advice to all young people, don’t put so much pressure on yourself to find a soulmate. Be respectful and above all else be honest with yourself and your partner. If sex is all you want then don’t lead a person on. Let your intentions be clear. You’d be surprise at how many people, men and women, are perfectly happy going through life without a partner just having causal sex when the need arises.