commentr/StutterMay 2, 2019

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I’ve gotten asked the same thing when I was in high school. High schoolers are the worst when it comes to being ignorant about speech impediments, but you can’t let them get to you. He probably has never been exposed to anyone who stutters and his parents never taught him manners (which will end up hurting *him* more than you in the long run, trust me). You handled it well, but I know how much it hurts when someone asks you something like that. Ironically, some of the kids who picked on me the most in middle school and high school ended up being good friends of mine in college, it just took them a little longer to mature than others. They’ve even apologized to me for it after reflecting on their actions as an adult. I’m in college now (4th year) and at parties I’ve been asked multiple times if I’m on a “ton of cocaine”. And honestly, a couple times I’ve just told them yes (even though I wasn’t) just because it was easier than explaining what the reality of the situation was. I regret that (especially because I don’t do drugs), but whatever. The rest of the time I’d explain to them that I stutter and they’re usually really cool about it. In college, people are much more accepting of speech impediments. High school is a rough time, a lot of kids just aren’t mature enough yet to deal with stuff like that. But I promise it gets better! I can’t promise you’ll never have to deal with ignorant people, but generally people are much more accepting and mature about it after high school. So keep your head up and know that you’ll make it through high school! It was rough for me at times, but at the end of the 4 years I made a lot friends and had some amazing experiences that I’ll never forget. Enjoy this time in your life, you won’t realize how great it actually is until it’s too late - so don’t let your stutter limit you during that time! Take some risks and put yourself out there, it’s not easy, but the more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations when speaking, the more you’ll get used to it. That’s something I didn’t realize until long after high school. If I had known that back then, things would have gone very differently. Good luck friend! I wish you the best.

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Emotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Hope & MotivationStigma & Bullying