istg pakistani relatives can be so annoying :/ i'm glad some of your relatives are nicer/more subtle about it, but it really sucks that you have to face the not so nice ones as well. also, pls don't let anything they say get to you, you're not "retarded" or anything else they might have to say about you, so let them think whatever (desi rishtedaaron k pas aur koi kaam he nai hai asal me)