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Relationship Help Apologies if I mess this up, it’s my first time on Reddit! I have a bf with a stutter that I think results from spasms in his diaphragm. He’s had it since childhood (we’re both university students) and it doesn’t sound like a “traditional” stutter so often times people don’t know what’s happening when he talks. This can result in people laughing at him which makes me see red but he ignores. I know it affects his self esteem, however- he worries constantly about not being able to get a job, is tense in social settings, hates phone calls, and can’t contribute during class (he’s a double STEM major and definitely knows the answers). His stutter affects every aspect of his life and I know he thought he’d never get a gf because of it. I love his stutter. It’s unique to him, is characteristic of his voice, and it comes out more often when he’s excited or sharing something he loves. I associate it with him being comfortable and can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried over a stuttered “I love you.” I want more than anything for him to stutter his way through “I do” to me on the altar someday. But I feel like I can’t tell him this because he hates his stutter so much and feels like it’s ruined his life. I don’t want him to feel guilty about hating it or feel like he can’t talk to me about it, but I hate lying to him and pretending that I hate such an amazing part of him. Should I tell him?