commentr/StutterFebruary 10, 2021

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Hey there, I understand your situation completely. I am in Software, with an impressive diverse background. Whenever I have an interview process, the initial short phone conversation and technical all go well. I even get compliments on my approach. But when I have HR behavioral, I stutter badly, and bomb it. In person, this is usually not a problem, but over zoom, it's a nightmare. Thanks to covid I was laid off, and have had to do a few interviews. Recently, I went through 3 rounds with a very big company, until the final round of behavioral. I stuttered, and couldn't even speak. Worst part, I know what I want to say, but for some reason it doesn't come out. Which makes me nervous, and gets worse from there. About 10 mins after logging off, I had an email from the recruiter saying they had decided to move in another direction. Mind you, in all my experiences, this has never happened. It usually takes 2-3 days to make a decision, even if it's a rejection. I was dejected, because I knew it was my stutter. In their defense, communication is a big ask in tech, but in mine, I am great outside of interviews. Anyway, I picked myself up, and pressed on. I went through another process, even more rounds (zoomed interviewed with 5 people at the same time at one point), and guess what, got a better offer. It really sucks when this handicap gets in the way, I know. And it's easier said than done, but feel bad for yourself for about half a day (I usually grab ice cream and watch some comedy), and start the next day off strong. Practice your pitch, practice some common questions, practice breathing, practice with a partner or friend, and eventually you'll get more comfortable. You know the answers, you're just nervous. Working out has helped me a lot too. You got this ✊🏿

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School & WorkEmotional Experience

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Employment & CareerAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & Agency

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