My husband stutters. My main advice is to remember that you aren’t his mom or his speech therapist. With my husband, when we were dating, I had to recognize that however he wanted to handle things was fine and I would support that. So if somebody is rude to him and I think they should be called out but he wants to ignore it and move on, I ignore it and move on. If he doesn’t feel like ordering at a restaurant and asks me to do it, I do it, even if I think it would be better if he didn’t avoid things. I try to remember to ask him before things, like meeting family of mine he hadn’t met yet, how he wants to handle it, like whether he would rather I introduce him or have him do it. He knows better than I do what he needs in the moment. If he stutters quite a bit, it can help to realize how physically hard and draining talking can be. So if my husband is really quiet at night I know not to take it personally because it probably has nothing to do with me. If I really need to talk through something with him (I was having a mini-freak-out about my dissertation the other night and I really needed his input even though he was really tired and had been having a harder time talking that day anyway, and he did talk through the problems with me even though I know he’d rather not have had to talk) and he makes the effort to do it, which he usually does, I let him know how much I appreciate that.