postr/StutterApril 16, 2021

Genuinely helpful advice I got from a ~70 year Stutterer

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Genuinely helpful advice I got from a ~70 year Stutterer A few years back, I was taking private trumpet lessons at University, and I got some advice from my instructor that has honestly been the only thing in my whole life that has reliably helped my stutter. When I walked into my first lesson, he asked me what my major was- a question I loathed. I was a physics major, and the 'ph' sound is one I quite struggle with. Paired with being nervous for the first lesson, I stuttered for quite a while trying to get the word out, and we continued to talk some more. Fast-forward to the end of the lesson, and as I'm walking out, he asks me if he could try to help me with my stutter. I was sort of surprised and confused by the question, but he explained that he had stuttered his entire life, and found ways on his own to really manage it (I had not noticed at all that he had a speech impediment). He likened stuttering to poorly playing the first note of a phrase on a musical (wind) instrument. When playing the trumpet, for example, to really have a clean and full-sounding first note, you would (ideally) breathe in on the up-beat to prep for the note to be played on the down-beat. Basically, he tried to relate breathing in playing an instrument to how we should breathe normally when talking- rythmically. So, for example, when I say 'physics,' or anything else, I should breathe in and start talking on the next "beat" as exhale. You develop a rhythm of breathing as you talk- inhaling and exhaling according to the beat. As I practiced it more, what he said really began to make sense, and it really helped. It might only have made sense to me because of the trumpet aspect of it, but I figured I should share it in the hopes of maybe helping someone else too. I went through speech therapy my entire childhood, both in school and privately outside of school, and *nothing* ever helped. I was routinely told I just had to calm down or to "Speak slower!!!" , or a variety of other repetitive nonsense that never helped me any more than I could already help myself. I've used his advice for years now, and I really am eternally grateful to that man, he gave me hope and helped me come to peace with myself.

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Coping & AdvocacyTherapy & Professional

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Fluency TechniquesPositive Therapy Techniques