You should really look within and find a way to come to terms with this. There are ways to improve, but it does not go away. That's just how it is. People are getting offended because you're in here asking us for advice so your kids don't turn out like us and your in laws. Like it's so bad to have to live how we live every day so we should be clamoring to help you and assuage your fears. Lol the make them strong mentally line is pretty wild.