A restaurant server laughed at my fiancée when she was stuck on a word, and I could use some advice
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A restaurant server laughed at my fiancée when she was stuck on a word, and I could use some advice My fiancée is my favorite person in the entire world. She has a stutter that worsens when she's around most other people besides me, but in general, it is something she deals with every single day. When she gets "stuck" on a word, I never rush her or finish her sentence for her. She has told me about people in her past not being able to handle waiting for her to get a word out. I think it's absolutely ridiculous that anyone would take issue giving her an extra few seconds to say what she's trying to say! It makes me so angry that people are so selfish and impatient, and it's clear past remarks about her stutter have made her self conscious. We have been together three years and until last night, I never heard anyone say anything regarding her stutter. Recently, she received a raise at work! I wanted to celebrate so I took her to one of her favorite restaurants. When our sever came over, my fiancée proceeded to order, but was momentarily stuck on a word. The server started laughing. At first I looked around trying to figure out what she might be laughing at, and when she walked away to put our order in, it occurred to me she was laughing at my fiancée! I was ready to speak up about it but my fiancée asked me not to, saying that she didn't want any other attention brought to her. We made the best of our night out, but everytime the server was around, I was biting my tongue and watching the love of my life's face show embarrassment and shame. We haven't been out in a year due to covid. We finally go out to celebrate something great, and it was dampered by an adult woman who for whatever reason found it appropriate to laugh at someone stuttering. I just don't know what to do. I feel like not saying anything will enable this woman to continue her behavior, but I didn't want to make my fiancée any more uncomfortable. What can I do about this or any future potential incidents? Should I call and speak with someone afterward, so my fiancée doesn't have to deal with it? And how can I support my fiancée in the future and help her realize the people taking issues with a stutter are the ones in the wrong, and not her for having a stutter? I love this woman so much and I'm just so upset I didn't do more for her.