Read out loud publicly in front of whole squadron this morning and only had 1 stutter block!
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Read out loud publicly in front of whole squadron this morning and only had 1 stutter block! Very long read so if you don't read I understand but I just wanted to post this to give the next person some advice and to celebrate for myself. For background, I get stutter blocks from time to time. Not very often to the point where I'd say it affects my life, but mostly when ordering food, in a drive thru, when someone ask my name and mostly answering a phone. I don't know why. I don't have low self esteem I'm actually very confident in myself. I'm very social and outgoing. I'm fluent in regular conversations or talking to some I'm comfortable with. I'm fluent when reading to myself or in a comfortable situation. I'm in the US Air Force and I was told yesterday assigned to be the narrator for our Promotion Ceremony this morning. I have publicly spoke before in front of my squadron about 5 years ago and I did fine from what I remember. But I was definitely nervous as hell that day that I would stutter the whole read but I actually read very fluently. This time, I was nervous as hell all night last night. It's never been this bad. Breathing heavy, stomach turning, couldn't focus on anything else. My wife tried her best to calm me down all night as I tried to sleep. I tossed and turned all night. I had never been that nervous on my life! I hate public speaking especially when everybody has their attention on me and it is completely silent except me. This morning I woke up, on my way to the base with my wife I'm taking deep breaths the whole drive. She keeps telling me I will do fine just beath and stay calm. She understands that I get blocks from time to time but nothing severe or even moderate. During our practice run with only 10 people, I stutter my ass off. I think I blocked at least 4 times. I definitely felt very scared that I would stutter while the squadron (100+ people) come in to do the official ceremony. Moments leading up to the ceremony, I take deep breaths over and over. I try my best to calm myself down. I try not to look into the crowd of eyes planted on me and just look at the paper I will be reading. As the ceremony starts and it's my turn to read. I get through the first paragraph smooth and fluently to my public speaking standards. Then it hits, I get to a block. I even mumbled the words sorry and I'm sure the first row of people heard it. My wife even told me she heard it after the ceremony. But after I said sorry, something in my head told me: "Just read, nobody here cares if you stutter. Plenty of people don't like public speaking. I'm sure half of the peor here would have did the same thing. Just read it. No one here cares or will even remember that you stuttered when it's all over with and they go about their days." After that block, I get through the rest very fluently. I acted like no one was there except me. I didn't look up ever again, I just kept my eyes on the paper and read. When it was all done. I asked my wife and one of fellow airmen how I did. They said you did fine. "What were you so afraid of?", they asked me. I said idk I just don't like public speaking. They told me I only blocked one time and it wasn't even a bad block. They also told me never to say sorry again after a block. They said there was no reason to apologize for that as no one is upset at you or disappointed in you and I shouldn't be either. All in all, I guess I'm posting this to try and give the next person confidence. Stuttering is okay, do whatever you can do that makes you comfortable enough to get through it but don't let it bring you down. For me, telling myself that no one cares if I stutter worked today. I quite literally uttered in my head "who cares bro just read the shit and get it over with they want to leave and I do too". Not saying that will work for you, but just try to figure out what helps you. If I can help you send me a message, I'll try my best to give you any advice I can. Good luck to anybody struggling with stutters. You will get through this one day. Thank you for being who you are and never try to be anything different. You will get through this.