>*"I just need a confidence build up and help"* I don't know if I can give you helpful advice, but I've synthesized tips to increase confidence from various websites. My personal confidence tips: * Change your old goal "I need to increase fluency", to a new goal, such as "If I didn't care that I stuttered just now, then I have achieved my goal", or, "I experienced a trigger just now but I didn't overreact or overthink anyway, then I have achieved my goal" * Be forgiving: Teachers and parents expect/desire more fluency. However, you did the best you could, and that's fine. Other people simply have other "information" than you, so it's logical for them to react in a way that goes against your expectations. So, forgive others, let go of this psychological struggle in your mind, and move on * Don't link confidence to speech performance or don't rely on confidence to increase fluency. Honestly, I got this line from a PhD researcher. But he's right. I believe as long as we rewire our speech programming to require confidence for overt execution, we will keep blaming a lack of confidence when we stutter - continuing being stuck in a vicious loop. Instead, if we stop overrelying on confidence altogether, and simply execute speech plans in any situations, even if we are triggered, this endless cycle of needing overreliance, breaks Confidence tips from [this](https://au.reachout.com/articles/how-to-build-self-confidence) website: * A confident person (1) does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular, (2) is willing to take risks, (3) admits their mistakes and learns from them, (4) is able to accept a compliment, and (5) is optimistic * Make lists of your achievements, and things in your life that you are proud of * Acknowledge your personal strengths and talents, and remind yourself of them often * Set realistic goals for yourself * Practice positive self-talk * Make time for your hobbies, and try out some new things to find out what you are passionate about * Talk to a counsellor or mental health professional to learn self-management strategies that can help build confidence and self-esteem Confidence [tips](https://www.jodymichael.com/blog/building-self-confidence-10-life-changing-strategies/) from this website: * Tackle the barriers to build confidence: * Learned helplessness * Blame * Isolation * Perfectionism * Expose yourself to triggers/challengers instead of avoiding them * Ask yourself for help even if you feel uncomfortable or concerned that it shows vulnerability and draws attention to your weaknesses * Learn to clearly say "Yes" or "No". For example, if you are a people-pleaser, practice the ability to say no * Let go of control: acknowledge that you can't control other people, events, etc. Only take responsibility for your moods, thoughts, perspectives and actions * Choose words that convey strength and a “can-do” attitude * Be accountable: Accountability means doing what you said you would do, when you said you would do it — even if it’s a promise you made to yourself Confidence tips from [this](https://sourcesofinsight.com/six-guiding-strategies-to-build-up-your-self-confidence/) website: * Be flexible in your behavior * Be kind to yourself