commentr/StutterMarch 3, 2017

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YES! Finally somebody's gone into enough detail about my footage to warrant a detailed answer. Kudos. I'm going to get extremely deep with this. Just warning you. It's great that you notice my energy. It's imperative to your quality of life. If you're filled with negative energy then negative things happen to you. It's the law of cause and effect. You get back what you put out to the world. To continue, I really do care. Because no such information (like what I share to others) was available to me when I had a severe stutter (8/9 years ago). Everything I read online went along the lines of "how to have a quality life WITH a stutter". I'm left thinking "Fuck, is there nothing that can be done to improve?". Which is why I'm so direct in my delivery. I have all this amazing information that I wish to share with the world. Information that I know can work wonders for others. Plus, if you saw my video "The Real, Honest Truth about Stuttering", it's all information that improves your quality of life. Which means that MILLIONS of people across the world have taken this knowledge and created amazing lives for themselves. Funnily enough, when I share this information, the first (and easiest) thing quite a few people (who stutter) do is get defensive. They think I'm attacking them personally. They respond back with comments that give the impression I fucked their mother then stabbed them to death - excuse the graphic detail. When in reality, the opposite needs to happen. They need to be open to this advice and understand they're in no position to refuse info that can help them. Usually people discard my approach when they fail to understand my approach. That's ok. Once they understand my approach, that's when all the change happens. Over the years that we stutter, we develop this victim mentality. This thought pattern of "why does all this negative stuff happen to me?". Which makes you believe that nothing can be done to allow you to improve. I've been through it and I know quite a few people here that have this mentality. It's poisonous! So whenever somebody shares a supposed "solution" then we get irritated. Because we have this thought that nothing can be done to help. And that, my friend, is the mentality that's going to impede you from achieving ANYTHING you want in life. The truth is we are in control of our thoughts and actions. The only thing out-with our control is other people's thoughts and actions. I have the belief that everybody can overcome their stutter; speak fluently to the point where they've "eliminated" their stutter. Because I've read so much research over the last 8 years that account for this positive growth. However, it's only a problem when we're out of alignment with this thought (that we can overcome our stutter). Wonderful things happen when you have a burning desire to take control and change your life. With this burning desire it's full steam ahead. It's having the belief that "Nothing will get in the way of my growth and progress". Don't let life happen to you. You have to make things happen! Which brings me to your point about me when I "essentially say they're not doing it authentically enough...". Everything that's worth having takes time. I have analogies for days to back this up. Look at the world's most prominent sports personalities. Michael Jordan, David Beckham, Roger Federer, Derek Jeter, Tom Brady...you think they got to the top by having a victim mentality?? No! they got to where they are/were by focusing so much time and effort into their craft. With a relentlessness to succeed and become the best. Take a few leading entrepreneurs right now - Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Tony Robbins...you think they became successful by feeling sorry for themselves and doing nothing to help their situation? No. They worked tremendously hard (and still work tremendously hard) and embodied the belief that they'll succeed. Doing whatever it takes to make it happen. See where I'm going? One thing to note is the time taken, to overcome stuttering, varies between each individual. It took me 6 years of incredible work to overcome my stutter. Nobody saw all the breathing exercises I was trying; all the time I spent meditating and creating a positive belief system; the times where I embarrassed myself and was humiliated, time and time again, in public situations because I found it difficult to say what I wanted. If you refuse to put in the hours each day to work on yourself, you'll fall short. If you refuse to put an incredible amount of effort in, you'll fall short. The worst thing you can do is "give in" and accept your stutter is there for life. Which is what I've seen on this subreddit from a lot of people - just by reading the headline of their posts. You may see my videos as "unrealistic" or "discouraging". That's because I refuse to believe that you have to deal with what you're given. In this case, I refuse to believe your stutter is with you for life because it's already apparent in your life. This is an approach - it's a way of life. You have to embody positive growth and be receptive to any information that can help you. Then you need to put in the necessary time and effort to make that change. But who wants to put in a lot of time to improve themselves? People want a quick fix. The problem is a lot of PWS build up negative mental conditioning about speaking and social situations. People want that conditioning gone right away but guess what? Everything that's worth having takes time. The reality is we're shooting ourselves in the foot. With the thoughts and beliefs that we have about our speech. Others are unable to help you if you're unable to help yourself first. Lastly, when you improve your quality of life (through meditation, law of attraction etc.) your speech improves as an indirect result. That's because the things in our lives are a product of our thoughts and actions. That's the truth and there's myriad scientific information to back that up. E.g. read any book from Dr. David Hamilton (my favourite is How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body). After saying all this, please see this as a passionate post. As opposed to a personal dig at anybody. I'm always open to chatting about this. But please remember that I've done my research. Emotional chat will get you nowhere - you need evidence. I'm confident with the knowledge I possess. :-)

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Emotional ExperienceCoping & AdvocacyIdentity & Disability

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Hope & MotivationMindset shiftIdentity & Self-Perception