Suggestions from having been there at twenty and am now forty and in a very different place in life: Find a therapist — If you can’t afford a therapist, there are ones who will provide services for free through a mental health association, your school, or a pro bono group*. Therapy is important for so many reasons as a stutterer — at the very minimum, it’s practicing talking about yourself, which is an important skill in making friends. If you’ve never been to a therapist, this isn’t “tell me about your mother” stuff, a therapist is going to listen and help identify ways you can baby-step into being comfortable in your own skin and to be successful in your goals. Meditation — Download the “Insight timer” app (free) and make it a daily routine. Find a couple good guided mediations and use them. Mediation, when done regularly, will absolutely lower your stress level — lower stress means less stuttering. The goal with both of these is to get to a place where you accept yourself and are chill. When you are in that state, you will naturally stutter less. The best piece of advice for stuttering I ever came across was that when you stop letting your stutter limit you and you press forward to live the life you want, your stutter will have no choice but adapt to your life choices. I thought that was BS at twenty as my stutter was too bad, but I didn’t have anything to lose, so I tried it, and it worked. I have the job, family, and life I would have thought not possible at twenty. I still stutter mild to moderately, but no one cares because I don’t care. If you want to live in NYC and go out for drinks with friends — move forward, confidently, and do so. The only person stopping yourself is yourself. Also, on the girlfriend front — confidence is sexy.