commentr/StutterSeptember 12, 2022

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"Is "accepting" the stutter also like giving up? " Many people who have removed stuttering told me that 'confidence' to believe you can do it, is important. So in that vein, if you give up and believe you cannot do it, then you will label yourself (which is called attaching importance to the trigger) and this causes a stutter expectation. "Would this allow us to overcome the stutter?" Yes, if you accept the trigger instead of the compulsion. Accepting only means, observing the stutter trigger without reacting to it. Acceptance in this sense means, we notice this stutter anticipation, we notice our reaction to this trigger. Our compulsion is the speech mechanism. Accepting does not mean to be okay with the compulsion "tensing our speech muscles" and "not able to move our articulators to the next sound". Because if you are okay with the compulsion, then you attach importance to the trigger (you react to it). Then the result is that the trigger becomes real in your mind. Our goal is to make our stutter trigger less real or fearful in our mind. It's about detaching importance by observing the trigger and not reacting to it. Always expect the stutter trigger and always really experience the discomfort of this trigger in order to become resilient against it. An example: right before we stutter, we have this trigger "I will stutter now". This causes a stutter expectation because we react to this trigger, we make it real, we think that the trigger is true. By observing the trigger (without reacting to it) while not doing the compulsion, our instinct learns that the trigger was not true. (note: it's not about convincing yourself that the trigger is not true because then you are attaching/reacting to the trigger again which is counter-productive because one cannot convince his own instinct. It's about letting your body automatically digest the fact that the trigger is less powerful and not true (than you once believed)) and is a part of letting go.

Themes

Identity & DisabilityAnticipation & Avoidance

Subthemes

Acceptance & PrideAvoidance & Substitution