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Environment = destiny (cheesy but true) *my experience matched with psychology* Your growth 📈 of your stutter lives and dies with the relationship you have with the people closest to you. Think about this: Your at a bar, you're with 3 of your closest friends and they all know you to be shy and quiet. That's they way you've always acted in the past when out with them. How easy will it be for you to speak and express yourself how you wish? Extremely hard at best, Impossible at worst. If everybody your around sees you as a version you are trying to overcome and they have no expectation that you will be stepping out of your comfort zone more and more often.. Then everytime you speak up when normally you wouldn't, they will always put subconscious or even conscious pressure on you to go back to what version they have always know you to be. This pressure could be a little remark, a laugh, a tap, a eye contact or avoidance of eye contact, you will feel it. Human beings always want congruence. It's how we feel safe navigating this world. And if one day you show up completely out of congruence to how people know you to be, it will spike uncertainty in them until they understand why or see you go back to old way of being. AND YOU CANT OVERCOME STUTTERING ACTING HOW YOU’VE ALWAYS ACTED. We need to change shit up. And that's why it's crucially important to do 2 things with people in your life who has seen you and has inner expectations on you to stay small. 1. Involve them in your process Or 2. Cut them out You see, I'm my journey I realized I never had many friends that were actually my friends, just people I would waste time with. So I cut out 90% of the people in my life and for the last 10% I involved them in my process. Now even though I was telling the 10% exactly what I wanted to do and where I wanted to go.. there brains were not accustomed to seeing me act in these different ways. So I had to baby step it. But that's another story for another time. I just wanted to share this. If you feel you aren't making progress in your speech or you are going around in circles, there's a high chance the people your around isn't making this process any easier for you. Check it out 👊