postr/StutterMay 20, 2021

Does anyone else feel that their stutter ruined their dating life?

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Does anyone else feel that their stutter ruined their dating life? I feel like my stutter took away many relationship opportunities. I’m 25 and still haven’t been in a relationship. For a long time I thought my stutter was the issue and tried committing suicide a few times because of that. I went to speech therapy and realized that my feelings about my stutter and the resulting depression and anxiety were probably the reasons why no one dated me. Still, if I didn’t stutter I wouldn’t have had those feelings and girls would have liked me. Even if I were to get a girlfriend now, I missed out on so much because of my stutter and that depresses me. I missed out on dating in middle school, high school, and college. If you went through this or something similar, how did you get through it?

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability

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Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringStress & Fight/FlightTrauma & Psychological