commentr/StutterOctober 19, 2016

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People always told me that my stutter wasn't noticeable but I literally blamed every social interaction that didn't go as I expected it to, on my stutter. "That was so awkward, she probably thought I was high" or "well, now I look stupid". I believed this through my 20's and am now just seeing the truth in it all; nobody fucking cares. You are your biggest critic and people will not remember you for your stutter, unless you let them. Look at this way, you have a trait that makes you unique and memorable. Look at what 90% of the population values... interesting and different people. You don't see oscar award winning films being made about average people, you see stories written about people who succeed and overcome their "self defining" adversity. You will have to work harder in some areas of your life, but you will be better because of it. Trust me. Whenever I used to get down about my fluency, I would google "famous people who stutter" and I would be damn proud 30 minutes later. Having adversity in your life, makes you strive for greatness, because let's face it; we want to prove everyone wrong who ever said one thing about our stutter. Do NOT value yourself by your stutter and never let it get in the way of being social, meeting new people or going after what you want. I learned the hard way by not listening to smart people who advised me that the people making fun of stutterers, are not the people you should value or want to be around. You will find people you are comfortable around and won't think twice when you stammer on a word. I'm sure they have some shit in their life they are working to get over as well. Cheers!

Themes

Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy

Subthemes

Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideHope & MotivationMindset shift

Codes (2)

socializing_group_sizesocializing_one_on_one