idk if he stuttered the first time he talked to me properly but i imagine so. we sat in the same group table in a class and i initially overheard him talking to my friend and agreed with his opinion, one time i commented that i also liked the same band he was talking about and i offered him food many times (it was a foods class) he never really started a conversation with me except one time he complemented my hair as i had just dyed it green. months later he msgd me to hang out. i know now that he was really down at that point and felt like if i rejected him it wouldnt make a difference so i think yur right about the lack of confidence. i know as well, now, that his stutter is the root of his anxiety and he actively avoids people/situations/opportunities because of it. for the first few times he stuttered i cant say that i remember it. im introverted so i cant imagine that i was paying attention. the first time i noticed it i wasnt bothered. but during the first few weeks i was self concious about it. i didnt want to make him feel bad when he stuttered so i bit my tongue when i unconciously wanted to finish his words and tried my best to look busy w something else while he was stuttering so he didnt feel like he needed to rush with time... i felt a reflection of my own anxiety on him. like as if i was the one stuttering, what would i want others to act like. in short yes i agree that others will notice its inevitable. i have seen others judge him without getting to know him. i have also seen others say that they dont notice it or that they dont mind. i believe that every woman is different. everyone wants a partner who is involved with their own life, cares about their job, health, values or whatever it may be. i dont think all women necessarily need that person to be confident. my bf could use more confidence (for his own sake, not my preference) but he is very friendly to people once they talk to him first. he isnt the type to initiate conversation but if hes sat in a group he makes the most of it, he makes the most of the situation to be social but wouldnt approach a group and just start talking. at first he was not open with me. he was very superficial and kind of put on a mask. i wouldnt recommend this as thankfully once the mask came off i still wanted to stick around as i felt there was something there worth exploring but what if i hadnt? what made me see past the stutter? i think chemistry and having a good time with him. everyone wants a best friend. someone they will get to see and live beside everyday. it wasnt perfect in the beggining and it still isnt, no relationship ever is. but whenever we were together he paid attention to what i said and made our activities together fun. some examples include him taking me drifting in his car, going to a movie and making jokes over it, exploring a new area of the town every time we were together. every time was something we both liked so we could both be excited over it. even when we werent doing any particular activity, there was chemistry, we could talk about tons of things pick each others brains about politics, music, art. over time i got used to having my best friend, my favorite friend, around. i started realising life would be more fun with him. i wanted him around forever. when walls started to come down, when obstacles came, when we had fights and bad experiences... it was worth fighting for for those good times with that one person. so i stayed and will continue to do so forever. why do people stick with their friends? i think its because they have chemistry, they have the same interests and like doing the same activities. im so sorry yu feel the way yu do right now. for a long time i was lonely and unhappy too. i didnt have any friends, i didnt have anything to live for any goals or dreams... but years later all that dread all that hate and self loathing, every hour and a half spent in class in a table all by myself when everyone else had a group, all the cutting, doubt, crying, everything, it was all worth it. i still go to therapy and i still have a long fucking way to go :) but things get better. my advice is focus on yu, the more yu focus on making yurself happy and and knowing yurself the easier it will be to find someone who yu have chemistry with and who will accept yu rather than someone who is attractive or has a great personality but maybe wouldnt put in the effort or accept yu when yu make mistakes, have bad days. have a bit of patience and dont let any opportunity pass yu. the day he msgd me to hang out the first time i almost said no. good luck and keep yur head up yu have a lot to offer dont take shit from no one :) Take care