disclaimer: I've met all of my girlfriend of the last 10 years online. It's kinda my specialty. 1. I meditate on the dates. I know that sounds weird but if you're experienced meditator you know what I mean. I treat the entire thing with radical acceptance and observe it. If I stutter, I observe it without making myself feel like shit for doing it. It's really about maintaining state of equanimity. 2. Coffee dates at first. Then maybe dinner or something fun on the second. Third date is usually when I cook and do grown up things with. 3. I asked out so many girls. I wanted to see who would say yes. A lot more than I thought did. 4. I don't ask out friends. That's playing the game in the wrong ballpark. 5. There is no "moves" persay. The real "move" is to own your desires and act out confidence when you do it. **Get the feedback** (did she like that or not?) and calibrate from there. 6. I never mentioned it on my profiles. And I covertly stutter most of the time so lots of people don't know. I'm privileged in that way. But when I did mention it on the second or third date I never got a bad reaction. There's lots of kind-hearted people out there. 7. It's interesting, some of the best experiences I've had on a first date didn't translate into a good 2nd or 3rd date. I'll tell you what though, I had a kinda relaxed and boring date with this girl two years ago. She was my 3rd first date that week. But it was nice to just be able to sit there and not feel like I had to say something. In April I'm asking her to marry me.