Defeatist attitude is another weight that lies like a yoke around your head but we gravitate to this because it's easiest after trying so hard and failing . Trick is change your view of failure , what's important , the beauty of an impediment is it is honing ones character and forcing them to go places internally non challenged individuals normally don't go . The obstacle is Def the way with this one , it's like hell week but forced and you never get to quit . First ones we defeat with the easy path is ourselves. Truck on fuck them this is about you and your journey . Don't externalize.