Bro please stop. Telling someone in a bad situation that they could have been in a worse situation isn't helpful AT ALL. That's the thing you have to avoid the most. "Oh you suck? Well what if you sucked more? Are you motivated now?" Being born without an arm actually looks appealing to stutterers. Because at least you get sympathy for it. >After the storm always comes the calm, even if it's sooner or later, it will arrive at some point. This is okay. But burying it under what you originally started with makes it seem like you're blaming the other person for being weak until that 'calm' arrives, as if it's their fault that they aren't patient enough.