Thank you for sharing this story, i can't imagine how humiliating that must have felt. total dick-move from your family member, super inconsiderate. I just wanted to reply because it seems to have messed you up - i don't blame you. but you can't let it get to you too much There will be more situations where people can say hurtful things, you just can't control what they say, the *only* thing you can control is how you deal with it. Right now, that family member probably isn't even thinking about what he (?) said, hell, he probably forgot it 3 seconds after those words were said - his ignorant remark is not worth your time either. you sound like a kind, considerate bloke who would never say something hurtful like that for no reason, let alone to family, **be proud of that.** Be proud of the fact you're not the asshole he is Maybe he was jealous, after all you were put in charge of playing the music, sounds a whole lot better than making shitty sandwiches. Next time he does something like this, **confront him.** whether in public or not, demand an explanation. He knows you've been stuttering your whole life, right? Then why say something like that? Was it a joke? Then explain what the joke is? Again, demand an explanation, keep asking questions, make him uncomfortable. He'll either apologize or he'll awkwardly try to laugh it off. Either way, he won't do it again.