Hi, apologize for just getting back with you. Been meaning to respond. So by passive I almost a question of asking ourself why do we need to DO something to feel good about ourself? If it’s doing things for healthy habits, that’s good. But if our confidence in ourself atrophies quickly unless we do something to prove that we deserve to be confident, I think this may be a problem though I’m not sure. For me I have a condition, a I guess you could call it, called Alexythimia. It makes it so that I have trouble identifying and processing emotions. So sometimes I think maybe I have relied to heavy on processing emotions by DOING things rather than being able to simply process my emotions internally. I tend to just generally face fears or accomplish goals as a way of releasing tension in my body. I start to question if I can possibly just learn to use more internal skills to process emotions. The other question you raise is about identity. That is the really hard part, especially as a man we feel we need to be doing and accomplishing, and so think you’re right, but haven’t found out where to draw the line. There are some people who can speak very confidently even though they are overweight, for example, and not super accomplished or active in self improvement, but they can still speak confidently in front of a group. So it begs the question why can one person feel confident without doing much where another person has to be well accomplished to feel deserving to speak confidently in front of people. I guess it’s not necessarily I wanna be passive, I just wanna work smarter and not harder and am trying to figure that out. Will continue writing…