commentr/StutterSeptember 6, 2021

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Life is not about participation trophies. You need to toughen up a bit. You didn't stutter. It's not something to be celebrated. It just is. Go on with the day. You're out having a great day with her. Don't make it about your stuttering, at least to a degree. She likes you. She doesn't like you because you stutter or don't. She likes you for you, beyond the stutter. Opening up and being vulnerable is good. Too much of it and you slowly drive the other person crazy. I'm at the other end of the extreme. I never talk about my stutter. It took my 3 years into the relationship to first mention it to my ex. That definitely takes its toll. I wouldn't advise it. Still, I'd say in overall success with women, talking about it less helps. I stutter. I don't want women to have to tend to my stutter. Venting from time to time is okay. Expecting your partner to be as excited as you about a time you didn't stutter borders on needy, which is a woman repellent.

Themes

Identity & Disability

Subthemes

Authenticity vs. MaskingAcceptance & Pride