commentr/StutterOctober 6, 2025

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As someone who stutters and who's been married for nearly 25 years to a lovely woman, I can only tell you what helped me get many dates, and, eventually, a wife (and three wonderful daughters). I looked for ways to improve myself in every way (starting from my mid-to-late teens), including working out, how I carried myself, how I dressed, etc. It didn't change the me that I was, but it did improve the me that was. Just try and be a better version of yourself every day. The more "awesome" you make yourself, the higher your confidence, and it will show to others, including the opposite sex. While I suppose I'm considered a reasonably handsome guy facially, and I have a good build from bodybuilding for 35+ years - both of which have helped - my actions and personality ultimately made or broke my dating life. I suspect, like me, you'll find most women aren't bothered by the stutter, especially if you try and make everything else on point. (And no, you'll never be "perfect," but there's something very attractive about always trying and doing your best, etc. You should expect nothing less from your own partner.)

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Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & DisabilitySchool & WorkSocial & Relationships

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Mindset shiftHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-PerceptionEmployment & CareerDating & Romance