postr/StutterOctober 11, 2025

wearing a face mask to "distance" people from their stutter

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wearing a face mask to "distance" people from their stutter I went on a date last night with a really cool gal. She told me prior we met that she stutters felt insecure about it. I knew someone in middle school who stuttered so I didn't feel "uncomfortable" with someone who stutters. I understand things like 'do not finish their sentences/let the person finish'. So I was ready for a hopeful great night. And it was a fun night and we made plans to meet up again this upcoming week! But the thing that stumped me was when I met her she was wearing a face mask. She told me she was recovering from a cold and with masks being common since the pandemic - I understand that. Obviously when we had dinner and a drink she didn't have her mask on. But at the end of the night, she admitted that the reason why she wears a face mask is because she feels "uncomfortable" and "embarrassed" whenever she stutters and gets stuck - she would spontaneously stick her tongue out and make movements with her mouth - which she said made her feel uncomfortable and that she was made fun of because of it. Personally, I want I think is strange is NOT that she sticks her tongue or had would mouth movements when she speaks - what I think was strange is that she's using a mask not for health reasons but to distance herself because of her speech. I didn't mention how I felt because it was only our first date and we still needed to get to know each other - but guys what do you think of the idea of using a mask to "distance" yourself from your stutter? (sorry for the long post :)

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

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Hiding & ConcealmentShame & EmbarrassmentDisclosure & Telling Others