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I completely agree with you. Growing up, I stuttered equally in all situations—it didn’t matter who I was speaking to. Even when I was alone, I still stuttered the same way. As I got older, I practiced speaking out loud when I was by myself. Over time, that practice paid off, and now I no longer stutter when speaking alone. The best way I can explain my experience is through what I’d call a fluent and stutter states. While most PWS seem to link these states to things like feelings or confidence, I didn’t. Instead, I just stopped associating any feelings, emotions, or thoughts with being in a “fluency state.” In fact, I kind of taught myself to think that a fluency state doesn’t exist—it’s just not something that I should be able to feel, sense or experience.. so whenever I seem to rely on any experience or sensation of a fluency state I was simply immersing in intrusive thoughts or feelings, and I had to get out of that 'fake' fluency state. Anyway recently I’ve been reading internal family systems theories. These theories suggest that each of us has multiple sub-personalities, almost like different parts of ourselves, each acting like its own person. When we speak, it’s not just our external listeners who hear us.. our internal sub-personalities are also listening. Just as others might judge or reject us based on our speech, some of these internal personalities may do the same. Although we have relatively little control over how other people react to our speech, we have a greater ability to control (or manage) how our own sub-personalities react to our speech. Inside our heads, we can talk to our other sub-personalities and help them to arrive at a more helpful understanding