Why can’t you be that charismatic guy? Charisma comes from attitude and how you present yourself, not your speech. Socializing isn’t just about how you speak, it’s about how you listen, and how you act. I’ve known charismatic guys who had the IQ of a rock… couldn’t hold a conversation with a 5 year old. BUT THEY THOUGHT THEY WERE BRILLIANT, HANDSOME AND GOD’S GIFT. Therefore, women and men flocked to him. Pretend you’re a con artist. A good con artist can make people believe ANYTHING. It’s an art. It’s an inner confidence. JUST KEEP IT LEGAL. You are what you believe you are. Change your perception of you and others will follow your lead. My freshman year in college was horrendous. I was 5’11’, 120 lbs, a stutterer and geeky. My dad, who was also a stutterer, told me I needed to forget the stuttering part of me and be the best person, best student, best looking (sexist but true), kindest person I could be. Then my stuttering would be secondary to who I was as a person. He was right. He was VP of Engineering Operations for Ford Motor Company. How? Because he believed he could do the job. He told me that in his first interview he brought a typewritten list of what he would change and how. In his second interview they asked him how he would manage people as a stutterer. He said simply he would manage everyone equally with kindness and firmness. His interviews took place in the early 1950s. A different world, but the same concepts could be used today. If you believe you can, you will achieve whatever you choose.