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Hi OP, I'm a black man (26) who stutters and still struggles with it. Im a Senior Software Project Manager and this career requires me to talk a lot and explain intricate things where every word matters. So I have had plenty of times where I get extreme anxiety about talking or evening being around people when It gets so bad (And still do) I can agree that there are not many resources for people of color who stutter, but TBH there are not many resources for anybody who stutters. I've been able to find a NSA group in my city and this has been pretty cool to meet other folks that stutter. So I recommend checking it out. There are people who have mixed feelings on NSA but I say it's a good feeling to talk with others and not feel shame for stuttering. So I recommend you check this out and make the judgement yourself. Also, I've always known that my stutter was significantly worse during times where I felt anxious. So bad that it would feel like my air passages were closing in on me. Knowing this I began to take my mental journey serious.I've had to change my thought process. The thoughts of me not being good enough, telling myself that I would not get anywhere, sometimes being envious of others around me that talk so much with no issue, becoming a hermit and never wanting to be in any social situations, etc. The biggest thing for you to be okay IN MY OPINION is to manage negative self talk. everyones path is different but here are my recommendations based on my experiences. I'm no where near completely free of anxiety, negative self talk but there has been a major difference!: **Daily morning/night meditation** \- Can be 5 minutes but this allows you to have more control of your thoughts. I know people talk about meditation all the time and it sounds like bullshit lol. That's what I thought, but it more than that. It's exercise for your thoughts. Just like you need to weight train to increase strength you NEED to meditate to reign in your thoughts. Sometimes it's hard to meditate on your hard days due to self loathing but if you can fight through that and I know you can because you're still trying. So trust me just check out a 5 minute guided meditation twice a day. This is the biggest one to me. **Exercise** \- I recommend weight lifting but do any form of exercising to find some confidence in yourself. YOU are great remember that. Fuck the negative self talk just get started. **Get Outside -** This is very simple. Just find a way to get outside into nature way more often. Just do it. **Take a social media detox -** This one is very helpful. Don't always feel that you need to check on the latest. It's easy dopamine for your brain when you're feeling bad. It's similar to masturbation IMO. A quick fix when you're not okay. This is not an attack on social media at all because I love it, but when you're in a low confidence place in your life social media is not your friend. Take a break, come back when you feel confident. These are many more things that I could recommend but these are the keys things in my journey. Also, if you want to reach out with questions or anything just PM me. I'm cool to talk career, NFL, politics, whatever. Hope this helps.